Should You Hire a Babysitter For Your Wedding

It has been my experience in the past that while having children at a wedding can seem inviting and kind, it can also be a nightmare!

I was a nanny for three years and I know first hand that the last thing a bride or guest wants to worry about is dealing with a cranky child!

You could opt to not have children at your wedding. In this case you would not add the children's names to the inner envelope of the invitation. It would also be a good idea to spread the word to family and close friends that children are not welcome at the wedding ensure guests who were curious about bringing their children would not have to directly ask you.

If you decide that you are content with having children at your wedding, hire a babysitter. Most churches or synagogues have nursery's that are available if you ask in advance. They may even have nursery workers available for you to hire.

If you are getting married in a hotel or having your reception at a hotel, I suggest you reserve a hotel room where the babysitter can entertain the children. Also, have at least one crib in the room for any babies. Stock the room with kid friendly snack foods and drinks and lots of craft supplies. These supplies can range from crayons and coloring books to small art projects available at your local craft store. Whatever you decide on, choose items that are age appropriate for the children that will be attending your wedding. It's also a good idea to rent children's videos, but make the sure the hotel room has a VCR first.

Chances are the parents can give you the number of one of their babysitters. No matter what, make sure you interview this person and get a minimum of two references. When calling the references be sure to ask:

• How many times has he/she babysat for you?
• What are the ages of your children?
• Were there any problems while your children were in he/she's care?
• Would you recommend me hiring he/she?

These are just a few examples to get you started. You may find more relevant questions while you are talking with the reference. If you don't feel comfortable from the references responses trust your instinct and move on to another candidate.

It's always a good to idea to provide a meal for the babysitter. You could either have a plate sent up from the wedding reception or even better, give the babysitter money and the number of a local pizzeria so she can order pizza for herself and the kids.

As far as fees go, I suggest you base it on how many children you think he/she may end up caring for during the day/evening. You should never pay less than $10 even if she has no children to care for. Here's how I would base pay.

• 0-2 kids $10/hr.
• 2-5 kids $12/hr.
• 5-8 kids $15/hr.
• 8 or more kids $20/hr.

If you live in a large city, these estimates may need to be adjusted by 2-3 dollars. You could also just ask the babysitter what she charges and see if you are comfortable paying that.

Keep in mind that your wedding should be a joyous occasion for you and your guests. Kids will be kids and they need stimulation! Do yourself a favor and keep them entertained! Best of luck on your upcoming wedding!

By Tara L. Lazar
lazarbridalconsulting@yahoo.com
www.lazarbridalconsulting.com

Tara L. Lazar is the owner of Lazar Bridal Consulting and a member of the Association of Bridal Consultants. Her office is located in Wilmington, NC.