Yes, You Can – Tips for the Encore Bride

If you are like many brides, this may not be your first wedding. So you’re probably wondering "what am I allowed to have at my wedding?" Guess what? There’s good news. You can have your wedding any way you want! This day is for you and your fiancé and the celebration of the love you have for each other. Don’t let anything in the past put a damper on the excitement of this new and wonderful relationship you share, or get in the way of having the celebration you really want.

With the minor exception of two things - a veil and orange blossoms, which both symbolize virginity - there is nothing you should avoid having at your wedding. Yes, you can wear white - it is the color of celebration. Your bridal party can be as large or as small as you want. You can register for gifts. If your attendants or someone else wants to throw a bridal shower for you, let them. You can also have a bachelorette party.

Think about your previous wedding for a moment, and consider the following:
1. Do you want to do everything in a new way?
2. Did you feel overwhelmed by the size of your last ceremony?
3. Did the style of your first wedding reflect your tastes, regardless of its outcome?
4. Do you want to find a special role for your children?
5. Are you still close to your in-laws, ex-spouse?
6. Would you feel more comfortable with a civil ceremony?

Honestly answering these questions can help guide you in your wedding planning.

Don’t concern yourself with any party-poopers who are wondering why in the world you’re planning a wedding anyway. The love and commitment you and your fiancé have for each other deserves celebrating. Why not shout it from the roof tops with a dream wedding? And if they don’t get it, then that’s their problem, not yours.

Most of all, celebrate your love and have fun.

by Jean Neuhart
Weddings From The Heart